Have you ever compared yourself to someone else and been disappointed with the results? Maybe it’s because you feel they look better, have a more successful career, or have more money?
Theodore Roosevelt wisely noted, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Comparing yourself to others can lead to feelings of bitterness, jealousy, animosity, and inadequacy.
Social Comparison and Its Dangers
Particularly with today’s technology, it’s all too easy to fall into the comparison trap. Log into Facebook or Instagram and you will be bombarded with photos displaying familial happiness, new possessions bought, and vacations enjoyed, along with other bits of happy news from others that can leave you down in the dumps. Comparison is one of the primary reasons behind the theory that those who are on social media experience more depression and lower self-esteem.
Everyone Experiences It…
One Woman Shop recently shared their own story demonstrating how quickly admiration can turn into comparison, quickly leading to bitterness and jealousy.
I responded to their Tweet on the subject and was surprised to find my thoughts shared in a blog post they later wrote:
We all fall into the comparison snare from time to time, but it’s important to remember that you may not be comparing apples to apples. You may not know know the whole story or you may be looking at years’ worth of work while you’re just starting out. Instead of getting jealous, learn from others and create your own version of success. Before you know it, you may be someone else’s hero.
How do you resist the urge to compare yourself to others?